Remember how in my last blog I said I might have to throw in the towel on blogging because free time and I are on a break? Well, I was only kidding. I love documenting my parenthood journey on my blog and don’t plan to stop anytime soon. BUT, now I’m being serious – I have a legitimate stage 5 clinger on my hands with my 4 week old son, Leo, and I don’t know how I’m going to do anything that requires two hands and free range of motion going forward. In fact, I’m actually wearing him in a baby wrap on my chest while typing this blog! In the last few weeks we’ve gone from a few naps a day in the bouncy seat or swing, and a few on my chest after nursing, to all naps in the Baby Bjorn or Baby K’Tan because ‘Lil Mister wants to be held and bounced around AT ALL TIMES.
It’s difficult not to make the comparisons to your first kid. Like; “Annabelle didn’t need to be held all the time…” or “Annabelle barely cried as a newborn.” But obviously we forget the rough times in favor of the good ones as time progresses, because I know our little Annabelle had her fair share of annoying newborn moments, too. Oops, did I say annoying? I meant challenging. I try to remind myself that Leo is just adjusting to his new life outside of the womb and he’ll grow out of this need to be held constantly. I very much hope this is true and it happens sooner rather than later. I mean, who else is going to do the laundry, unload the dishwasher, and take the trash out? Hell, I’m actually thrilled to be able to do this kind of stuff baby-free if I can get him to sleep somewhere other than on me. But outside of chores, mama really just wants to sit on the couch with a glass of wine or a cold beer and enjoy Dancing with the Stars without a child attached to me. Just an hour a day to myself, that’s not super crazy, is it?
If the baby cries, just feed him…again and again…
When you’re breastfeeding and someone else is holding your crying baby you always get the question; “When is the last time you fed him? I think he’s hungry.” Oh, sure he is; I just fed him 37 minutes ago as evidenced by my flattened pizza tits, but let me pick them up off the floor and see if they’ve had a chance to reload so I can feed the baby AGAIN. Sheesh! When you’re the sole source of food for your baby it’s easy for everyone to fast pass him back to you when things get dicey. Newborns are super cute and all, but when their red little face crinkles up into the cry face he becomes like a hot potato, everyone wants to get rid of him! Poor guy. Wait, poor ME!
Experienced mamas, I’m actually in need of your advice. Did you just hold your fussy babies around the clock or let them cry it out a bit? Honestly, the idea of letting a newborn cry it out sounds like torture for everyone involved. I feel like he’s still too young for me to really know what he may be crying about, so it just feels mean to let him cry. That’s not to say when I’ve got him in his car seat when we’re about to go and I’m running around getting a few things together that I don’t let him cry a few minutes until we’re out the door. I’m sorry, but baby #2 gets the shaft in this regard. When you have a toddler you can’t just drop everything to tend to the baby. You do your best, but sometimes he’s just going to have to cry. Hell, it’s good for him. Maybe it’ll teach him patience at an early age.
I’m sure half of you reading this will totally relate and half of you will think I’m an ungrateful mama who should feel nothing but blessed to have a new, healthy baby and I should just deal with it and not complain. Well, I feel beyond blessed to have my sweet baby boy and I love him to the moon and back. But I’m human and God gave me nerves that get irked and patience that gets tried, but at the end of the day I think I’m handling the transition pretty darn well! And I created a blog so I could share, relish, contemplate, and complain about stuff, so this is just the complain-y part. But I try to see the sense of humor in it all and take it in stride. I’ll figure it all out…eventually!