Today we ventured out to our first library story time so that Annabelle could enjoy a fun change of scenery and so I could meet some potential new girlfriends. As we sat down to watch the cooky library guy do all these silly made up songs and read a couple books, I found myself scanning the room for a friend. I was thinking, hmm… too old, might be the grandma, um… too hippy-ish, we’d have nothing to talk about… and then I’d see a cute mom and I’d zero in on her, watching her from across the room. It’s like I’m a freaking DUDE…eyin’ the pretty lady, waiting for the right moment to make my move.
Meeting friends used to be sort of an organic experience that happened from working together, going to school, etc. But as a SAHM, it’s like you have to meet people on the fly and hope to see them again sometime. It’s pretty much like speed dating. You might attend a mommy/baby class and strike up a nice conversation with another mom, and then you go back 3 weeks in a row to the same class and they aren’t there. So it’s hard to really connect with people.
There have been a few times over the course of the last year and a half where I’ve met other moms with a child Annabelle’s age and we struck up a nice convo, exchanged emails or connected on Facebook, but it never took off from there. It’s like we had a failure to launch a real friendship because we only had that one time to connect. It’s frustrating!
I almost wouldn’t mind going to an actual speed dating event for moms. Or maybe a mom conference where they have booths set up for “moms who like Sauvignon Blanc”, or “moms who like Twilight”, or something like that. Then you could easily weed out the hippies and just meet the ones you know you’re going to have something in common with. That makes me sound super picky and like I want friends just like me, but obvy I want to start off with a common ground. Plus, I want fast friends, I don’t want to have to pursue mom friends over weeks and weeks on end.
When I was on maternity leave with Annabelle, I joined a mom’s group and was able to make a couple really close friends, and a lot of nice mom acquaintances, which was great. We’d meet every Tuesday and it was something I looked forward to every week. I remember one of my now good friends saying she went to the Moneyball premiere in Oakland by herself so she could catch a glimpse of Brad Pitt, and with that, I knew we were going to be fast friends coz I would totally do that, too! I need to find more mom friends like this!
So I’m definitely planning to join another mom’s group so I can hopefully meet other cool moms. I’m sort of slow moving on getting my SAHM act together, but I’m getting there. I’m sure at the one month mark I’ll be feeling like I’m finally getting the hang of this thing — I’ve got two more weeks!
If you’ve had success meeting other mom friends, what has been the best venue for you; mom’s groups, library story times, classes, parks, etc.?